Ever have one of those days when you can almost actually
hear the conflict inside of yourself? You
know the conflict, the proverbial angel and devil on opposite shoulders?
At 41 years old, I would like to believe that I have evolved
to a level of maturity that eliminates the need for retaliation or one-uppedness,
or whatever you want to call it. To let
hurtful people just be hurtful and not let it affect me, to not feel like I have to let the other
person know that they DO NOT have the upper hand. Sadly, I am not there yet. However, the fact that I have the inner
conflict tells me that I am getting there.
That is progress.
Every day we are faced with people who, for whatever the
reason, just don’t like us. Maybe we unknowingly
scowl too much, maybe we have political views that we feel strongly about that
they disagree with, maybe we have stepped over an invisible boundary that we
didn’t know existed, maybe we are someone that the other person wishes they
were, maybe we are the epitome of what they hope to never be, maybe we are too
nice or too judgmental or too fat or too pretty, who knows!
The point is this; that it doesn’t really matter. When we wake up in the morning, we are the
ones who have to look at ourselves in the mirror. And we all know that no matter what face we
put on in public and to the people around us, that look in the mirror is our
moment of truth. If we are human at all,
we face our faults in that mirror; we see our weaknesses and our truths. But we also see our strengths. The trick is to recognize them all for what
they are and do the right thing. On many
days we will struggle with this, but on those days when we allow for common
sense and unselfishness to prevail, we will do the right thing, the thing that
is healthy and productive, the thing that makes us a positive example to our
children. Sure, we may have legal or
moral rights to act otherwise, but that doesn’t mean that it is the right thing
to do for everyone involved.